Following on from my previous post Baby Race I watched the next two parts of the programme on C4 and it did get better. Certainly less depressing with more women having success on their chosen path to having children.
The biggest thing about the programme was that it kinda forced me to think about the issue consciously, which I really never had done before because I'd never been in a situation where to me having children was an option. Some of my friends who don't yet have children were also watching. Not all of them are single but even one of them who is in a relationship and has always been fairly put off by the idea of children was forced to ponder a little on the issue of her fertility. For todays educated, thinking women, facing the fact that your level of choice in the biggest decision that anyone can make is as shocking as whether or not you can have children. As my friend put it "its the difference between going voluntarily to WeightWatchers and having someone steal your buns!"
As I said in the last post I've decided I don't want to know about my fertility for the time being. I wouldn't do anything about it anyway, as bringing a child into the world on my own by choice is just not an option for me. I do admire anyone who has chosen to do so but personally its not something I would want. I'm a firm believer in "what is meant for you, doesn't go by you" so I'll just keep ticking along as I am, thank very much.
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I think you and I are in tune - I posted about this programme again today too! I don't think I'll watch any more of them - far too depressing and giving me too much pause for thought. That said, I work in a building where I'm the only single person and an office where the sole topic of conversation is everyone's children, so it's hard not to be reminded that I'm a barren spinster! I know statistically many people meet their partners at work, but I'd need to lie in wait for the postman or something...
Definitely in tune, being a competent barren spinster takes time, committment and lots of practice. I know what you mean with everyone talking about partners, weddings, children but c'est la vie. Maybe we do need to be more proactive and at least you have the postman - if you saw what's on offer around here you'd think you were the cat that got the cream!
LOL - I loved your comments!
Finding peace with anything is the way to go. Less stress and what will be will be is so true. (Until something happens and you so want it and can't! - I loved the weightwatchers and buns analogy.)
Yeah, I like the Weightwatchers and buns idea myself, it really sums it up quite well for me. Wish I'd thought of it myself but alas my friend is the clever one.
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