tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19927271.post6951040453396838276..comments2023-10-31T11:30:14.024+00:00Comments on That Friday Feeling!: I a fussy bitch! But some things are non-negotiableCurly Khttp://www.blogger.com/profile/17429084955670398882noreply@blogger.comBlogger5125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19927271.post-60394527501591054452008-02-15T02:28:00.000+00:002008-02-15T02:28:00.000+00:00LOL Curly - I can see you with a delightful pilot ...LOL Curly - I can see you with a delightful pilot complete with a whole plane of baggage and you all getting on brilliantly :-) True enough that sometimes we don't get what we think we want, but on the other hand having a reasonable shopping list is no bad thing.<BR/><BR/>Thank goodness before Mr Doris met me he did accept that whomever he met (at the age we were) would most likely have baggage and was prepared for it. That didn't mean I had to feel similar. And same goes for you, though when cupids arrow is fired we take what we get.<BR/><BR/>And you know, I hadn't previously thought how politically incorrect such ideas could be!Dorishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14073379610501763461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19927271.post-77289765552549931202008-02-12T23:13:00.000+00:002008-02-12T23:13:00.000+00:00Doris, I am so glad that you 'get' where I am comi...Doris, I am so glad that you 'get' where I am coming from and that indeed you had made a decision that you wanted a man without baggage and that it is not only those of us without baggage that make that decision sometimes. I am very, very aware that my point of view can appear as judgemental, particularly to people who either find themselves single parents or parents that no longer live with their children and partner but sometimes the reality of what one would like and the politically-correct thing to say are two very different things. Also, what we ideally like can be very different to what we end up with - who knows I could meet and fall madly in love with someone with enough baggage to fill the hold of a plane - only time will tell!Curly Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17429084955670398882noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19927271.post-83886955657763388502008-02-12T09:57:00.000+00:002008-02-12T09:57:00.000+00:00First off, I want to say what a great night out an...First off, I want to say what a great night out and to find that ya still got the magic and sparkly repartee with the blokes.<BR/><BR/>You have to stand by what you feel and anyway, I wonder if the right magic was there then perhaps whatever is in the past will not have mattered. So until then, you gotta stand by your own standards.<BR/><BR/>I know I have said before, but before I found Mr Doris I set out knowing I wanted a man with NO previous baggage ... because I had enough of my own to share and because I had been there and done it. That was extremely judgemental of me, but meant that I did the best possible thing not only for my kids but also a ready-made family for the lovely Mr Doris. <BR/><BR/>Perhaps if I had been blogging back then I might have made a similar post that could look most judgemental.Dorishttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14073379610501763461noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19927271.post-82474968455815339232008-02-11T11:08:00.000+00:002008-02-11T11:08:00.000+00:00WNB, I do know what you mean and realise that it s...WNB, I do know what you mean and realise that it seems like I am immovable and judgemental. I certainly don't always judge people by their past mistakes and have previously gone out with a guy with children who was long separated as well as other guys with other stuff in their history. It's just taken altogether it added up to too much. The children are still very young and the relationship with their mum seems very complicated and messy - just too much and perhaps it just pointed out that I am not interested enough in the guy to overlook those things. None of like to be judged by our past mistakes but in this instance it was the total rather than just the sum of the life history that proved just too much.Curly Khttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17429084955670398882noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-19927271.post-17370635820233457852008-02-11T00:13:00.000+00:002008-02-11T00:13:00.000+00:00I see it thus: would you like to be judged by a fu...I see it thus: would you like to be judged by a future lover on some of the mistakes you've made in the past? I know I wouldn't because it's the future that is important.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.com